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A little relationship advice from BPF

"Please give him a chance.  He’s a nice guy!"

Fine, I gave him a chance.  And you know what?  He was a nice guy.  He was also morbidly obese, gasped when he breathed, made immature and inappropriate comments, couldn’t hold an intelligent conversation, and moaned and groaned the entire time we were out.  That’s not mentioning the fact that he obsessively plays video games, doesn’t have a job, and lives at home with his parents.  Being nice isn’t enough for me to consider this guy a potential partner.  A cat is nice.  A dog is nice.  A guinea pig is nice.  And they don’t make racial/homophobic slurs behind closed doors.

I’m not looking to go out with an unhealthy 14 year old boy trapped in the body of a 27 year old man, no matter how nice he is.  But I’m also not looking for a genius male model humanitarian.  I’m looking for a functional adult.   And if that makes me a ‘bitch’ then so be it.  All I know is that on a scale from 1-10 I may only be a 6 but I’ll be damned if I settle for a 2.

There’s a difference between settling and being realistic.  Settling means you agree to sacrifice your quality of life in order to not be alone.  Settling means you don’t acknowledge your own worth and what you deserve.  Settling means being complacent with being unhappy just so you can say you’re not single.  Being realistic means you acknowledge that you’ll never marry that hot celebrity you fawn over.  Being realistic means you know you won’t find the perfect person who compliments you in every way.  Being realistic means you are willing to be flexible and compromise on things you ideally didn’t want to deal with.

No one should ever settle for anyone!  If you have high standards then look at them realistically and make adjustments where you can.  Don’t lower them just to get a boyfriend/girlfriend!  As much as you need to deserve your partner your partner needs to deserve you.  It’s better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.

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